Peace be with you

March 2013

Dear Parents,

I did not lose my enthusiasm about the Director’s blog; in fact, I have focused on it many times.  I simply was having difficulty honing in on a topic.

I initially planned to address the question — how do we, as parents, balance our efforts and desires to have our children reach their greatest potential with embracing them simply for who they are. In other words, how hard do we push to make them the best they can be? That lead me to ponder a second topic. “Are our parenting efforts always beneficial or are we striving to make our children like us and to meet our expectations of the perfect child?”  If a child is born “far from the tree”, do we celebrate his/her differences? If a quiet, introverted child is born into a loud and rambunctious family, what happens?  If our child enjoys reading and solitude while we prefer sports and celebrations, do we acknowledge and cherish the different personality or find it perplexing and annoying?

Hopefully you will not wonder about my attention span, but a third topic surfaced when I observed many of you interacting with your child at the recent Wesley Church Easter party.  Obviously, most of my time with your child during the school year is in the classroom.  While supervising the cookie decorating station at the party, I had the privilege of watching your child create a beautiful Easter cookie.  Some parents were happily chatting with friends and not even aware that their child was at my station. (No, worries, I am accustomed to watching many children simultaneously and it was a true delight seeing your warm smiles and friendship.) Other parents were carefully managing the decorating activity and offering advice and guidance to their child.  Driving home, I reflected on the many parenting styles I had observed and even wondered how I would have viewed myself with my own children.

After much reflection, I decided that Wesley parents are well educated, resourceful, and perceptive adults.  As a group, you do not need my advice on parenting or my observations on your relationships with your children. Instead I want to compliment you on your excellent parenting and your reliance on your faith to raise God’s children.  I am proud to be a part of a community which takes such good care of its children.  Rather than trying to control the path, you let your child walk with Jesus every day.  Peace comes because you are humble enough to turn your heart to God and to ask Him for guidance with loved ones, particularly on difficult days. With God’s help, you are striving to be the best parent you can, to be at peace with your decisions, and to remain hopeful about the future.

“Peace I leave with you, my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives.  Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” (John 14:27)

Peace be with you,

Laura Hoing